Free Book: The Quantum Couple: Marriage Myths Compared to Science Facts


Quantum Couple.coverThe Quantum Couple Click link for free ebook.

In 2008 I began to list ways science and marriage overlap. I planned to write a 60,000 word humor book entitled, The Quantum Couple: Marriage Myths Compared to Science Facts. My purpose was to help pre-married (and married?) couples view their marriage as a laboratory and themselves as scientists.

After 7400 words I pooped out. My enthusiasm for this project has waned and I have neither the time or inclination to finish. Instead of trashing the manuscript however I thought I’d make available what I’ve done and show this unfinished ebook the light of day.

From the back cover:

About the author

Erik Johnson is a marriage counselor and mediator specializing in family conflict resolution. He practices in Bellingham, Washington. His hobbies include writing, cartooning, and helping couples understand that a failure to grasp anti-matter and dark matter doesn’t really matter. But getting along with one’s partner does.

He invites couples to put on their white lab coats, fire up their energy particle accelerators (everyone has a super collider, right?), and enter the wild and wooly world of quantum mechanics, nuclear physics, and human relationships!

Research marriage bonds! See marriage is a laboratory! Split the atom!

Or at least pick up your socks.



Forgive and Forget by Lewis Smedes


Forgive and Forget.Smedes. Click link for nine page summary.

Smedes forgive coverAlthough this book is an oldie, it’s a golden oldie. There are hundreds of books on the subject of forgiveness but none of them (to my knowledge) summarize the topic as well as Smedes. The best books on forgiveness cite Smedes as a seminal thinker in this field. As a marriage and family therapist I hear many stories of horrific evils either committed by or committed against family and friends. We’ve got three choices when this happens: invent a time machine and go back in history and undo the deed (impossible), hold a grudge and risk the poison of bitterness (unhealthy), or work toward forgiveness (hard but liberating). This was the option chosen by MLK, Tutu, Mandela, Ellie Weizel, and others. Smedes gives us pointers on how to do it. I’ll be happy if this summary whets your appetite to read the whole book.

The Problem of Pain by C. S. Lewis


The perennial problem faced by monotheists, the problem of pain, is addressed by Lewis in this book from the 1940s. The fact that he later adjusted his understanding of suffering after his wife died (A Grief Observed) does not take away from the thought provoking role this work from a Christian layman.

Problem of pain


On Being Certain by Robert Burton


A recent TED talk video presenter asked her audience, “What does it feel like to be wrong?” Participants answered, “Embarrassing, shameful, stupid.” She replied, “No, what you just answered was what you feel like when you realize you were wrong. When we’re wrong it feels just like being right!”

Here’s how a neurologist describes the brain chemistry behind the feeling of certitude.

On Being certain