Forgive and Forget by Lewis Smedes

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Forgive and Forget.Smedes. Click link for nine page summary.

Smedes forgive coverAlthough this book is an oldie, it’s a golden oldie. There are hundreds of books on the subject of forgiveness but none of them (to my knowledge) summarize the topic as well as Smedes. The best books on forgiveness cite Smedes as a seminal thinker in this field. As a marriage and family therapist I hear many stories of horrific evils either committed by or committed against family and friends. We’ve got three choices when this happens: invent a time machine and go back in history and undo the deed (impossible), hold a grudge and risk the poison of bitterness (unhealthy), or work toward forgiveness (hard but liberating). This was the option chosen by MLK, Tutu, Mandela, Ellie Weizel, and others. Smedes gives us pointers on how to do it. I’ll be happy if this summary whets your appetite to read the whole book.

The Problem of Pain by C. S. Lewis

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The perennial problem faced by monotheists, the problem of pain, is addressed by Lewis in this book from the 1940s. The fact that he later adjusted his understanding of suffering after his wife died (A Grief Observed) does not take away from the thought provoking role this work from a Christian layman.

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On Being Certain by Robert Burton

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A recent TED talk video presenter asked her audience, “What does it feel like to be wrong?” Participants answered, “Embarrassing, shameful, stupid.” She replied, “No, what you just answered was what you feel like when you realize you were wrong. When we’re wrong it feels just like being right!”

Here’s how a neurologist describes the brain chemistry behind the feeling of certitude.

On Being certain

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